This article isn’t about those naughty nine-hundred numbers for ninety-nine cents per minute. This is about flirty to filthy phone banter with a partner or, perspective partner. It’s about those conversations that happen when two people are separated for a time and simply want to turn each other on.
What happened to phone sex?
I call it a lost art because the internet came along and, for many couples, this form of bonding became obsolete. Why call when you can Snap or FaceTime, right? While pictures and video calls can be hot, they leave nothing to the imagination and that’s what phone sex was all about; fantasy and imagination. We’ve become a society driven by immediate gratification and the desire to see more.
What’s so great about phone sex?
There’s something to be said about hearing the longing in your lovers’ voice and knowing that when they close their eyes, they see themselves doing unspeakable things to you. For those who are a bit modest about showing their bodies online, telling instead puts them in a more comfortable space allowing them to express their desires more openly.
I would be remiss not to mention the permanence and potential risk of exposure that comes from sending nudes, explicit video content, or even racy text messages. Phone sex generally ends when the call is ended leaving far less risk that anyone other than your partner will know about your interlude.
When you’re getting comfortable with your partner and need to spice things up, phone sex can be a welcome novelty. Whether you’re in a long distance relationship or simply separated for a day or two, phone sex can keep the intimacy continuous despite being apart.
How to keep it from being awkward
Talking dirty is a definite step outside of many peoples’ comfort zones but expressing your fantasies in a way that excites your partner can be easy.
If you’re certain that your partner will be a willing participant, just go for it but if there’s any doubt, discuss it and get their consent.
You may want to start by sending teaser texts during the day. Something like, “I’ve been thinking about you naked,” or “I can’t wait to tell you about the sexy dream I had about you.”
To prepare, you might read an erotic novel or watch a little porn to get the imagination flowing. Then, dress sexy and ready the area where you’ll be making the call. It’s easier to describe your outfit and the scene if it’s real. For example, “I’m wearing a red teddy,” or “You lay me down on the satin sheets,”.
You don’t have to jump right in with the dirty talk. Sometimes, it’s better to ease into it. Discuss your day and tell your partner how many times you thought about them. Then, when you’re both at ease, lay out your fantasy.
Keep in mind that in most cases you’ll be having a two way dialogue as your partner seeks the details that will make them the most excited. If you are the more submissive partner, you might find that your lover takes control of the conversation leaving you to simply describe how they make you feel.
Remember that the more descriptive you are, the better. You’re relying on your words to paint a picture in your partners’ head.
Listen to your partners’ words and breathing. This is the best way to know if you’re hitting the right buttons and remember to respond. Your partner will be relying on your words, moans, and heavy breathing, too.
Don’t be afraid to pleasure yourself
That is, after all, the point. If you fake it, they’ll probably know.
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